Helping Without Losing Yourself

The Art of Boundaries in a Caring Life

You’re the helper. The one who brings the meal, sends the card, drives the neighbor’s kid to practice.

And that’s beautiful.

But sometimes, caring for others starts to chip away at the care we give ourselves—especially with money.

Have you ever said yes to covering a cost or giving your time, only to feel quietly stretched too thin?

You’re not alone.

Let’s try this instead:

• Know what you can give—before you're asked. Build generosity into your plan, not out of guilt.

• Practice kind-but-clear boundaries. “I care so much, and I’m not able to help with that expense. Let’s talk about other ideas.”

• Honor your own goals. Your future matters, too. So does your peace.

Boundaries aren’t barriers. They’re invitations to love more sustainably.